Many people have accused me of being fairly judgemental. Let me preface this by saying, I don't judge because I think I am better, if anything I judge people on how they act or what they do and then relate it to how I would do it similarly or different. I always try to envision myself in their shoes.
Well the old adage, that you won't understand till you actually walk in their shoes is 100% true. I could never understand how people would react in bad situations and how I always wanted them to be stronger or fight harder. Well, easier said than done sir. I am in a few pickles with my family, friends, and relationship and the world feels like its shattering. I don't have the energy to fight, as I have told so many others to do. I can feel the ground crumbling from underneath me. I know what you are thinking "my that's melodramatic" and yes I (the previous me) would have said the same thing. Actually, I would have said it harsher. In the words of my personal trainer, I would have said "build a bridge and get over it".
Now, I don't know if I am drowning because it is all at once and if I had say only one of these issues happening one at a time that I would be able to take on each one with the bravery I thought I had. However, whatever the reasoning may be, I am not doing such a great job of dealing. Picture this, profuse crying (the snot dripping, dry heaving kind) under the covers with a tub of ice cream that even women 8 months pregnant wouldn't touch.
With that said, in the grand scheme of things that's not terrible. A few nights sulking is warranted when you have too much on your plate. I am just waiting for my inner tigress to come out and to deal with all of these issues one at a time.
The good thing from all of this drama is that I have learned not to judge others for taking their "few days" to wallow and be upset. I can't always expect people to get up and fight at the brink of an issue. We are all humans, and we all deal with things differently and at different paces. I now understand that until I walk in someone else's shoes I can't and shouldn't really comment on how they are dealing with it. The best anyone can do is provide support, love, patience, and understanding in times of need. Not to say that by motivating them to get over it and start picking up the pieces isn't a form of support. Nonetheless, I think I have come to the realization that coddling the person back to sanity isn't necessarily the wrong route either-tough love may not always be the answer. So if there is any silver lining that is going to come from this dark cloud in my life is that I have become a better friend/confidant.
Well the old adage, that you won't understand till you actually walk in their shoes is 100% true. I could never understand how people would react in bad situations and how I always wanted them to be stronger or fight harder. Well, easier said than done sir. I am in a few pickles with my family, friends, and relationship and the world feels like its shattering. I don't have the energy to fight, as I have told so many others to do. I can feel the ground crumbling from underneath me. I know what you are thinking "my that's melodramatic" and yes I (the previous me) would have said the same thing. Actually, I would have said it harsher. In the words of my personal trainer, I would have said "build a bridge and get over it".
Now, I don't know if I am drowning because it is all at once and if I had say only one of these issues happening one at a time that I would be able to take on each one with the bravery I thought I had. However, whatever the reasoning may be, I am not doing such a great job of dealing. Picture this, profuse crying (the snot dripping, dry heaving kind) under the covers with a tub of ice cream that even women 8 months pregnant wouldn't touch.
With that said, in the grand scheme of things that's not terrible. A few nights sulking is warranted when you have too much on your plate. I am just waiting for my inner tigress to come out and to deal with all of these issues one at a time.
The good thing from all of this drama is that I have learned not to judge others for taking their "few days" to wallow and be upset. I can't always expect people to get up and fight at the brink of an issue. We are all humans, and we all deal with things differently and at different paces. I now understand that until I walk in someone else's shoes I can't and shouldn't really comment on how they are dealing with it. The best anyone can do is provide support, love, patience, and understanding in times of need. Not to say that by motivating them to get over it and start picking up the pieces isn't a form of support. Nonetheless, I think I have come to the realization that coddling the person back to sanity isn't necessarily the wrong route either-tough love may not always be the answer. So if there is any silver lining that is going to come from this dark cloud in my life is that I have become a better friend/confidant.
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