I don’t know where the saying came from, but I think it’s based on the fact that when you haven’t been or aren’t physically close to someone the little annoyances that come with them being around are washed away with the “missing them” feeling. You tend to only remember the good and forget the bad because it’s usually small stuff anyway. To some extent I do understand that, in concept. However, lately I have been feeling that distance is just distance (emotionally and physically). With friendships and relationships alike, if you are distant from someone too often or for too long you tend to lose touch with their lives. When you are disconnected from what is happening with someone it’s hard to feel this love or closeness to them. It becomes awkward to start conversations, its superficial small talk, or just plain old misinterpretation of intent. All of these factors cause a wedge with someone emotionally, that you can only really repair with physical closeness. The only caveat to this is that if you have known someone for a very long time or have been close to someone for an extended period of time it seems that the distance (length of time or actual proximity) seems to affect the relationship less & less. The deeper the relationship with a friend, sibling, significant other, etc the more endurance it seems to have to distance. All I know is that since my relationship is new and many of my friendships are that I must need weekly encounters to please my heart because the distance has not made it grow fonder.
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