Dichotomy

Many times I have been told how I am not the typical girl (not even quite sure if that is a compliment or an insult nowadays) Even if I pretend to know what some of the stereotypical girl traits or boy traits are, I really don't know what mold I would fit into. I am into cooking (can't get enough of the food network) I am also an avid HGTV watcher and am thrilled to decorate, redecorate, plan parties, & events. However, I would enjoy nothing more than a cold beer, some wings, and a football game on a Sunday afternoon. I am also into playing golf & watching mob movies. No this is not an online dating profile, but the point that I am trying to make is that a person can be into all different types of things, but that doesn't define them as a "tom boy" or a "prissy girl". Just because I can't go more than 2 weeks without a manicure doesn't mean that I can't hang at the local pool hall. So then is it our approach to life that determines our gender bias? If it is not our interests or extracurricular activities that decide if we are more masculine or feminine, it must be the way in which we interact with others, handle tough situations, approach work, deal with family, etc. In that respect then, the whole cursing like a sailor would probably fall under my non typical girl like traits. There is no calm cool collected female approach I have to a stressful situation. However, my interaction with others (may it be family or friends) is empathetic which is quite a feminine quality. So ladies and gentleman of the jury, I have no case to rest, seems as if whatever measures you would like to use on what makes a girl a chick and what makes a boy a guy, seems that there will always be this dichotomy of the X and the Y.